How to Get out of Your Own Way

Let’s be real—most of the time, the biggest thing holding us back isn’t our circumstances, lack of resources, or even other people. It's you, It’s us. Yep, a

ll of us. We overthink, we doubt ourselves, we procrastinate, we make excuses. And before we know it, we’re stuck in the same spot, frustrated and wondering why nothing is changing.

Sound familiar? Good. Because recognizing it is the first step to actually doing something about it.

Here’s How You’re Probably Getting in Your Own Way:

1. Waiting for the “Right Time”

• You tell yourself you’ll start when you’re less busy, more confident, more prepared. Newsflash: The “perfect” time doesn’t exist. The only right time is now.

2. Overthinking Everything

• You analyze, strategize, and think so much about your next move that you never actually make a move.

3. Fear of Failure (or Success)

• You’re scared of failing, but deep down, you might also be scared of what happens if you succeed. More responsibility? Higher expectations? Change? Yep. But staying where you are means nothing changes—so which fear is actually worse?

4. Talking Yourself Out of Things

• You convince yourself you’re not ready, not qualified, or that nobody will care. But the truth is, nobody starts ready. You get ready by starting.

5. Letting Self-Doubt Run the Show

• You wouldn’t let an unqualified intern make all your life decisions, yet you let that doubtful little voice in your head run the whole damn operation. Time to fire them.

How to Actually Get Out of Your Own Way:

1. Take Imperfect Action

• Stop waiting for everything to be perfect. Start messy, start small—just start. Action creates momentum, and momentum is what gets you results.

2. Make Decisions Faster

• The more time you spend deciding, the more time you waste. Pick a direction and go. You can always adjust along the way.

3. Reframe Failure

• Failure isn’t proof that you should stop—it’s proof that you tried. And every time you try, you learn. And every time you learn, you get better. That’s how you win.

4. Act As If

• Want to be confident? Act as if you already are. Want to be successful? Start making decisions like the version of you who’s already there.

5. Get Support (But Not Permission)

• Surround yourself with people who push you forward, but don’t wait for anyone’s approval to chase what you want. Your life, your rules.

Final Thought:

Time will pass no matter what you chose to do or not do, wouldn't you prefer to have a least tried? I have spent countless hours researching, planning, talking, etc, never to have actually started any of the projects I was interested in. Blaming everything around me from the weather, to the construction going on outside my building, the only thing standing in my way was ME. It's a harsh truth, but isn't it also kinda liberating? Once you figure this out, you will notice how many times your thinking (and over-thinking) is what's stopping you from reaching your goals.

If you are interested in seeing what could happen if you took a chance on yourself, maybe just allow yourself to trust and believe there are better way of doing things, please feel free to reach out! I would love to chat and hear about your own experiences with self-sabotage and maybe you would be interested in working together to see if we can shift your mindset.

Thinking of you and all the good things coming your way!

Amy xx